- How to Write an Obituary -

What's involved in writing a good obituary? That's really the first thing you have to think about when sitting down to write one for a spouse, other family members, or a close friend. Exactly what factual information should it include and how can you find a balance between dry facts and engaging storytelling? We have the answers to those questions and hope you will find this information about how to write an obituary helpful.

Start With the Basics

Begin with essential information:

  • Full name (including nickname or maiden name if desired)
  • Age
  • Date and place of death

You may also include the cause of death if the family is comfortable sharing it, though this is entirely optional.

Example:

“John Michael Smith, age 78, of Phoenix, Arizona, passed away peacefully on…”

Share Their Life Story

Next, include a brief overview of their life:

  • Where they were born and raised
  • Education or career highlights
  • Military service
  • Hobbies, passions, or interests
  • What they were most proud of
  • This doesn’t need to be long—just enough to reflect who they were.
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Include Family Members

List close family members, typically:

  • Those who preceded them in death
  • Those who survive them

You can keep this formal or conversational, depending on your preference.

Example:

“He is survived by his wife of 52 years…”

Service Information

Provide details about services:

  • Date, time, and location
  • Whether services are public or private
  • Livestream information, if available

If services are pending, you can note that details will be shared later.

Memorial Preferences

Many families choose to include:

  • Donation information (charities, foundations)
  • Flower preferences
  • Special requests from the family

Example:

“In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to…”

Close With Meaning

End with a short closing line that reflects remembrance or gratitude.

Examples:

  • “He will be deeply missed and forever remembered.”
  • “Her memory will live on in the hearts of all who knew her.”

Helpful Tips

  • Obituaries are usually 200–500 words
  • Write in third person
  • You can be formal or personal—both are appropriate
  • Proofread names, dates, and locations
  • There is no obligation to include everything

Remember This

An obituary is not a test—it is a reflection of a life. There is no single correct format, only what feels right for your family.

  • If you would like assistance writing or reviewing an obituary, placing it online or in print, or making changes after publication, our team is here to help every step of the way.
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